When you are having your second kid, most people will tell you to give your firstborn a lot of extra attention as they may become jealous of their new sibling. This was very true in my mom’s case. My brother was 17 months when I was born and one day while I was sleeping in my crib, he went to the kitchen, grabbed a wooden spoon and came back only to hit me in the head with it. I cried, my mom came to check and found the big bump on my head and my brother showed her the wooden spoon confessing to the act.
We were curious to see how Aarav would act when his baby brother came along. At just over 3 and a half he has had so much attention from us, that we thought he will either be a great helper or want us to take the baby back. Thankfully he loves his little brother. He reads him books, sings songs to him, has private conversations about how Santa is bringing him a big firetruck and Arjun a little firetruck for Christmas, helps with diaper changes (well passing us a new diaper) and also helps with bath time! It’s been amazing to see them interact. The awful part, is he is loathing us! He is acting out a little more and pushing and testing boundaries with us. Aarav refuses to pick up toys after playing, refuses to eat certain meals, and often says “no” to everything we ask of him. Which he never did before baby came along. Hoping this is a temporary thing and he stops having so many tantrums. In the end we can handle it, and we’ll manage and Arjun won’t have a similar experience of a wooden spoon to the head – let’s hope!
Did you have a similar experience when baby two came along?